it’s amazing how quickly we find ourselves stuck in a rut, or just in a routine. we don’t do well wandering aimlessly. well, i don’t anyway, and i think it’s a safe bet to say that most of us don’t. i recently came across a web site www.tinybuddha.com and its helped me rethink things. there is no hard and fast rule for living your life, but the site has helped me re-open my mind and my eyes. its a glass is half empty and half full sort of world. recognize why it is empty and figure out how to make it full again. no one can make me happy. that is up to me. if someone says or does something to me, before i jump to a rash and possibly negative reaction, i need to take a second to consider why they did or said what they did. be empathetic. im not making excuses or trying to avoid confrontation, but we need to look at the bigger picture. our lives are all inter-connected with the environment around us. no one thing has total control, unless we let it. im tired of feeling exhausted, unhappy, wanting what others have. the only thing i have total control over is myself. i can work on my thinking, my attitude, my outlook, my diet, my body, etc… i can. i need to stop saying i can’t, and later because nothing good comes out of that. later never happens. ok, so it’s all well and good that i have the motivation, now i have to put it into action. this part sucks. its easy to say, so now i must do. i want to reconnect with all the simple pleasures life and friendship has to offer. i want to be happy in the moment and not always focused on the what if’s of the future. i’ve made a promise to myself to do something every day and will keep a journal of it. i’ll add thoughts and quotes to it as i find things out about myself or that help me clarify an action. im kind of nervous about it, but im excited at the same time. im tired of walking in the shadow of who i want to me. it’s time to be me and go for my dreams. so what if i fall? not that it wont hurt, but i’ll just get back up and keep going. isn’t that how we learned to walk as babies.
‘the miracle is not that i finished, the miracle is that i had the courage to start’
something i have been struggling with for a while. found this article at www.tinybuddha.com and wanted to share it.
10 Ways I Know There’s Nothing Wrong with You (or Me)
by Lori Deschene
“On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a joyous energy behind what you do.” ~Eckhart Tolle
At 17 I had it all. I made straight As, was the vice president of the Honor Society, held two jobs, took the lead in four community theater performances, and joined Donnie Osmond onstage as part of the children’s chorus in Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.
I was busy. I did things well. I got attention. I was ready to snap.
I was so hungry for success and approval I’d do anything to get it, even if it meant exhausting and dehydrating myself straight to the ER. What’s worse, I was continually dissatisfied with everything I did. I was my own punching bag.
Thirteen years later I don’t do nearly as much. I don’t take any classes. I don’t work much at the moment. I don’t perform anymore. On the other side of overexertion, I still beat myself up.
I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up—there’s something wrong with me.
I live across the country from my family, and haven’t justified it by becoming a massive success—there’s something wrong with me.
I’m obsessed with self improvement, but I’m still not perfect—there’s something wrong with me.
Stop. Revelation. Cue the spotlight: There’s nothing wrong with me.
And there’s nothing wrong with you.
Here’s how I know both of these statements are true:
- You’re playing the game of life as best you know how, and trying to get better every day. You can’t possibly do someone else’s best, so there’s no point in stressing about it.
- You make mistakes like everyone else, which allows you to learn as you go. That means you’re doing what you should be.
- You’re unique, whether you’re introverted or outgoing, book smart or street smart, creative or technical—the list goes on and on. You’re the world’s only opportunity to know a person just like you. The only hope to share what only you can.
- There’s no such thing as the way you should be. If you do what you enjoy and don’t harm other people, you’re living a beautiful life.
- You will never become someone—you are someone right now, whether you influence millions of people or mean the world to just one person. Your impact is powerful, whether you realize it or not.
- If someone hurts you, you don’t deserve it. No one does. End of conversation.
- You feel emotions and respond to them. That’s the way this whole humanity things works. If you could stand to improve the way you respond, newsflash: you’re still like everybody else.
- You have a pulse right now, and it’s your choice what you do with it. There’s no right or wrong answer. (Unless what you want is to maim a puppy or something equally perverse.)
- You choose what you think is best, or else you wouldn’t choose it. As you get new information and grow stronger and smarter, you’ll make different choices.
- You are beautiful, inside and out.
I’ve printed this out and put it in my nightstand where I can read it when I get hard on myself. I hope it gives you comfort when you start thinking there’s a good reason to not enjoy right now.
Lori Deschene (@lori_deschene on Twitter) is a San Francisco-based freelance writer who believes three things: an ounce of brutal honesty is worth more than tons of praise; it’s never too late to be who you really want to be; everything you need to know about the world you can learn by watching House. She blogs about personal growth and positive thinking at seeinggood.com. Read her other tiny buddha contribution here.
Photo creditsomething i have been struggeling with for a while and wanted to share. found this blog on www.tinybuddha.com
so i get my run in early this morning, my errands done just after noon, and then the skies open up and pour. heh, good timing… im putzing online checking facebook and twitter and i hear thunder. what? in october? in connecticut? good grief, but at least it isn’t snow. im not ready for that yet. let me enjoy the fall colors and halloween first, please.
huston, we have a problem… empty coffee mug. it had honey vanilla white tea chai w/a splash of vanilla carmel coffeemate in it. debating 2nd cup. nah, wont sleep for work tonight if i do. in a funky mood today. feeling kind of scattered. had a thought process going when i logged on, but as usual i got sidetracked and now it eludes me. again.
below is a picture of my cat dixie. curled up in my lap napping last night while i was watching the red sox game. life is good…
catnap
